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The321
February 19th, 2010, 6:25 PM
After eight and a half years my wife Cindy has left me. She left on 2/4/10 about thirty minutes after I got home from my hour and a half to Orlando for work. It has not been the best of times for the past few months. since May 09 she has been in a down ward spiral of depression. all this is due to her daughter and her selfishness of stealing from her mother's employer Walmart. She worked for 7.5 yrs and I was Oh so proud of her for all she accomplished in such a short time. Anyways back in Nov 09 I went hunting. remember my thread on my hunting trip? Lots of reads no replies. anyways I was gone for 3 days. Everything seemed fine until I got home. She had been hooking up with guys online. even meet one at a hotel to get a tattoo. totally unlegit he has no bio hazard permit. No licences. Not ta! and TBH it looks like ****!

In the mean time the step monster has been in and out of the house. Causing drama like normal. she had been living with a girl we both new and trusted yea, TRUST..... More like fooled. Anyways Come the week before Christmas she took off for what was called a girls night out. Dinner and a movie. "thing is she was going and hanging out with 19 y/o girls from our neighbourhood my wife is 44". And I found out they did not go to a movie. What they did do was go to the local bar called the county line. More lies on her part.....Drinking age is 21 so who got the beers?

So instead of coming home when she left she with to this persons house I worked with. A female with all kinds of emotional baggage. three different kids three different daddies. "Anchor babies" Who don't pay a dime in support but according to her are all good guys, Yea right..... Well this happened the week before Christmas. I went to my brothers with a u haul and all my belongings. Planning to move back to Killeen. On the way I stopped at my brothers house. He lives in Deltona Fl. Stayed the night. My only mistake was to talk to her. she convinced me to come back if we went to a marriage counselor. I agreed. Found one when it came time to go. She didn't want to follow through. so it never happened.

Now were at 2/4/10 I get a service call to pump down a lift station. this is taking for ever because the line is full of..... well you know. since money has been tight we cut sprint loose and are down to one cell phone. I used hers when I went to work. I was messing around with the phone and find these pictures on it. some dude and a chick on a Harley.So I text the sender.

I ask "Hey who is this"

I get " you know who it is"

I say " No I don't this is cindy's husband"

I get " Oh yea be @ your house in 5 minutes"

I say to myself "funny I'm in Orlando hour and a half away.

Next texts says " Hey loser I got a 30.06 round with your name on it"

I reply " You do? ever see what double 00 buck does to the human body?"

this goes on for a few more minutes until I see whats been going on. I call home I ask Cindy is anyone at the house, hey who is this on this Harley? She said you see that girl? Yes I do. I talk to her online, "treehugger" Oh yea so why did a dude pick up the phone when I called, You called? Yes I did call and he is making all kind of threats going to shoot me and other nonsense. she had every excuse in the book let me tell ya. well comes to find out this is a lie. Again.....

So I drive home after work try and try to call here and ask her WTF is going on? She will NOT pick up the phone. So I get here she is packing daughter in tow. I ask please don't do this. why are you running? why are you online talking to men in Yahoo chat? Why. Step daughters enters the room. grabs a beer i just pooped opened breaks it and makes like she is going to cut me with the broken long neck. I laughed. See courtney is a drama queen Ni**er Sorry that just how it is. she is not black but acts very black. I do not intend to offend anyone. She comes around all hell breaks loose here. and it did that night.

So they left, went back to the same place as before now with a twist. comes to find out since NOV 09 my wife has been signed up to online dating sites. As of last night its up to 4 sites she is signed up to. she has been on tagged.com. Its a nasty networking site tons of porn she is all up in it. Meets all kinds of men for God knows what. She swore up and down after the "tattoo" thing Nothing happened he has a GF and nothing happened in that hotel room. well that's until I hacked into her email account and found all kinds of emails sent to dudes that live around here. I even found one dated while I was hunting saying "hey honey Ill be alone until Sunday afternoon" I emailed everyone of them told them "THATS MY WIFE BACK OFF OR ELSE" even found naked pictures of dudes in her mail box. Man I was pissed! I can't tell you how many time I walked out here in the middle of the night and she was on yahoo chat I would ask what are you doing? Just talking............ BULL****!!!!!!

So now that she has left I think back at all the BS that has gone on here. Man that's a hell of a lot. She has been very dishonest with me a total liar. She made plans on leaving me she even said it on one of her online dating sites. never showed any signs didn't even make one attempt to repair the marriage. I NEVER seen this coming. I feel her sister had a lot to do with this. Why? Because she is alone and would get pissed if Cindy and I ever show affection. She would storm out of the living room and rant about how she don't need no man. I truly feel her sister had a lot of influence on my wife decision.

:doh:banghead:-0:(:|/:):-s:(([-(I-)

THEMEANOGRE
February 19th, 2010, 6:46 PM
Yes, 321, women are a major source of the world's ills. But, GAWD, what would we men ever do without them??

christine
February 19th, 2010, 7:11 PM
well it sounds like she was done long before this. if she trys to come back, don't fall for any lies. depression doesn't make you cheat.

dragonfly
February 19th, 2010, 7:14 PM
I'm sorry you were hurt! Take care of yourself and let time heal you.

The321
February 19th, 2010, 7:28 PM
Time is healing. Now a days i look back and put all the pieces in their place. Just like a puzzle. she had been lying she would always get upset when I talk about being honest. even got upset when I would put on the Tv show "cheaters"

Now I see why..................................


Trust
Truth
Honesty

All qualities that make a world of difference.

Iteachtoo
February 19th, 2010, 7:31 PM
Time does heal all wounds, there are times you may never believe it, but it will. I have been where you are, keep your head up.

Night Owl
February 19th, 2010, 7:44 PM
Run, run as fast as you can.

CenTexDave
February 20th, 2010, 8:36 AM
Looks to me like you're better off without her.

cityboy
February 20th, 2010, 9:49 AM
One's life eventually improves tremendously after one lets go -- physically and emotionnally -- of a psycho. Believe me. I know ... :-B

getserious
February 20th, 2010, 3:19 PM
:thumbsupA good job ,a good truck and a good dog. Guaranted happinest.

Spartan
February 20th, 2010, 3:57 PM
Looking for fulfillment through persons most always leads to disappointment.
As Aquinas said, "Our hearts are restless, O Lord, until they rest in you."

christine
February 20th, 2010, 7:50 PM
I always liked the saying.."don't put the key to your happness in someone elses pocket"

Scarlett
February 20th, 2010, 9:22 PM
I didn't really understand most of your original post, other than is seems like you are better off without all that drama! Just went through the longest year of my life, and I can tell ya once ya let it go and move on, it sure gets easier! Head up...

cnjbond
February 21st, 2010, 12:25 AM
I agree with Scarlett, it was hard to understand your post especially when I got to the part about your step-daughter being "a drama queen Ni**er Sorry that just how it is. she is not black but acts very black" WTF dude? But it does sound like you would be better off without her.

Charles Grubb
February 21st, 2010, 8:41 AM
I wish you well.
This too shall pass.
But, that part where you used the offensive 'N' word, WOW!
That was unnecessary and offensive.
What does race have to do with infidelity?


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The321
March 10th, 2010, 10:17 AM
It is what it is, nothing more.

The321
March 11th, 2010, 10:57 AM
I wish you well.
This too shall pass.
But, that part where you used the offensive 'N' word, WOW!
That was unnecessary and offensive.
What does race have to do with infidelity?


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When the local blacks in the neighborhood call her that it seems to have stuck.. :-0 :-0 :-0 Not really.

I hope you can understand it better.

kryptickancer
March 11th, 2010, 11:50 AM
sorry you are going through this. Maybe when it's all over you can breathe a sigh of relief!

texaswhatever
March 22nd, 2010, 1:27 AM
If only there were intervention specialists to gaurd us from lying cheating wh**es. It would have saved me two years of my time and a hell of a lot of tears. *fist bump* you'll get through it brother.